The Respect Dare Not sure why, but husbands aren't like our sisters, mothers or girlfriends, no matter how much we want him to be! Want something? ASK. . . . Simple. Direct...to the point. It's respectful.
(Nina Roesner)I found myself in a situation this weekend when that Facebook post flashed through my head. And then this video of Nina, made for The Respect Dare e-course, came to mind. There was something she said in that video that described exactly how I was behaving.
I know that Nina's situation in the video and my situation were not even remotely the same. My husband said something that hurt. I got offended. I got mad. My head started running that vicious little tape of "you-know-he-was-out-to-get-you-pushing-buttons-and-setting-you-off-on-purpose . . . ."
WHAT? My temper made me forget. What was it he said anyway? I couldn't even remember what he'd said that set me off.
Uuughgh - I hate female hormones.
The next time I assume I know what motivated what I think I heard; And before I completely ignore that he loves me and has no intention of hurting me; AND before I go get fifteen-shades-of-purple-mad at him, I'll ask him to rephrase what I obviously misunderstood.
I'll be asking . . . . Simple. Direct...to the point. It's respectful.
Purple-mad is not a good look for me.
Guess you're all wondering how it worked out, for my husband and me?
Well - as you know I am a big fan of The Respect Dare page on Facebook.
First I told my husband how sorry I was. Then I "took the dare" from last Thursday.
The Respect Dare When is the last time you initiated intimacy? Dare you today to pursue your husband in a special, and perhaps memorable way! :) Being desired does something to a man that few other things do. We frequently hear of the benefits (usually domestic support and random acts of kindness bestowed) from women who make a practice of regularly pursuing their hubs!