Ephesians 5:33b: And the wife should respect her husband.
Respect is his primary need, his deepest desire.

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Monday, August 02, 2010

Completing Him Well

Welcome to everyone visiting from the “Women Living Well” blog hop.  

Welcome!  I am excited that you have come to visit during this week’s “Completing Him Challenge”.   The theme for this week’s challenge and blog hop is “R.E.S.P.E.C.T.”  

As you glance around my site you will notice that this blog is all about “respect” and sharing the realization that it is my husband’s and Your Husband’s Deepest Desire.  When Courtney introduced today’s challenge she shared the message to the wives that can be found in Ephesians 5:33.
"Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself and the wife must respect her husband."  This can be a difficult verse to apply because some women have husbands who are not doing the first half of this verse. Their husbands are not loving them as themselves BUT my blog is not written for men so I have to move on to the second part of this verse.”
I also write about the second half of that verse because I am a woman and I am not called to counsel the men.  This blog, Your Husband's Deepest Desire, came from a desire in me to promote the admonition of Paul to the wives in Ephesians 5:33 as I also discovered in the teaching of Emerson Eggerichs in "Love and Respect" as well as the challenges as presented by Nina Roesner in "The Respect Dare".   

Because the need existed and the card companies do not provide appropriate messages, I create and sell greeting cards with messages of respect, designed for wives to share the respect they feel, or want to feel and are commanded to feel, for their husbands.  Because, honestly, we are all commanded to respect the men that we married.

It is true that our men earn and/or lose our respect from time to time, but for our individual God-breathed spirit – I believe that we respect our husbands unconditionally.  The imperfection of mortality darkens and hides the truth of how we feel deep inside where the light of Christ resides.

In an earlier post I stated that “When I became aware of every man's desire for respect, I did not have far to look for all the proof I needed.   My husband is a man, no different than any other in the desires of his heart.  He wants to be respected for all the noble pursuits of every man."  (See "I Married a Stroke Survivor" for additional details.)

As Courtney said, “God's command to wives is to respect our husbands - unconditionally. Our men are not boy scouts trying to earn badges of honor. God does not say - respect the husband who is "worthy" of respect. It is simply their position of husband that we are to respect.”

God did not say, "If the husband does well, the wife should respect him." No, God expects the wife to respect her husband unconditionally. When He has asked us to do something, He will help if we will let Him. Successfully overcoming the insidious habit of disrespect is possible with God's help.

The admonition of Paul and my prayer - for me, for you - is that we will subdue our carnal instincts and do all that it takes to obey the word of God for us.  I have written often about my failures and my triumphs in this pursuit.  

If you have some time today, browse around a bit. I invite you to follow this blog and, together, we will learn “this respect thing” one small step at a time. I am so glad you stopped by!

Buy a "Respect Card" for Your Husband at Your Husband's Deepest Desire

Visit the other women sharing their messages of R.E.S.P.E.C.T.



Pat said...

Remeber that respect is NOT a feeling; it is an ACTION.

Love from your mother!

Joyfull said...

This is my first visit here and I have been blessed and encouraged. Thank you for linking up and sharing today. Thank you for your visit to my blog and your kind comments. You may link my post to your blog - it would truly be an honor! Blessings to you.

Garden of Egan said...

Beautiful thoughts.
This is such an uplifting blog!

~Amy~ said...

Praying for God's richest blessings on your marriage!
Stopping by from the "Completing Him Challenge!"

Larissa said...

Hi, Sharon. You visted my blog today - and wanted to thank you for stopping by. I very much enjoyed reading your blog! Thanks for your thoughts - I really appreciated your comments!

Anonymous said...

Respect is a feeling and an action. When a man rarely respects his wife:

1. She can still outwardly respect him which she does with everyone anyway regardless of their actions
2. She does not feel respect for a man that treats her badly (mental, emotional or physical abuse)

Courtney (Women Living Well) said...

What a neat blog you have - LOVE the peacock!!! Thanks for joining the challenge and for spurring women on to respect their husbands!!
Much Love,

Amy Sullivan said...

Your blog goes perfectly with the theme the Completing Him Challenge!

Always enjoy stopping by.

Bonni said...

Great post!! SOOOO true, rarely preached! Thanks for stopping by and leaving such a meaningful comment on my blog!

kewkew said...

Found your blog through the Completing Him Challenge over at Courtney's blog. I really appreciate your post and your blog. I am your newest follower. I have yet to write my post for this week.

Can I get an Amen?