Ephesians 5:33b: And the wife should respect her husband.
Respect is his primary need, his deepest desire.

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Thursday, July 08, 2010

Happy Dance Time!

It is Happy Dance Time at Your Husband's Deepest Desire!

"The Good Book Store" at Hope Chapel in Hermosa Beach (California) has stocked every card offered by "Your Husband's Deepest Desire" for sale to their customers.  

I'm a shopper - a shopaholic actually!  I never thought I could switch to buying anything "sight unseen".  I'm a toucher, a taster, a tester.  I examine my purchases carefully.  I know how hard it is to give up those tendencies to purchase something online.  So let me say that I am extremely grateful to the proprietor and the pastor at Hope Chapel for providing the physical cards for shoppers to touch before they buy.  I know that the husbands and wives in that congregation will be blessed.

I know that the messages in the respect cards are pleasing to God.  How do I know this?  Because I, of myself, have not written these cards.  I know that God is the author of the messages.  I know this because of how they come to me and how they are received by the readers.  

It is at once exhilarating and disheartening to witness the look of longing in the faces of husbands as they review these cards for me.  Every man that has taken a stack of samples has gone through their set slowly - pondering, considering, and appreciating the messages.  

Without exception, every husband has wistfully hoped that their wife would give them one.  It doesn't matter that these men have already read every card - they want to receive a card with their name on the envelope written in the hand of their own wife.  That mattered to them.

But, honestly, I have a difficult time walking up, uninvited, and saying to a woman, "Your Husband Asked Me to tell you that he wants you to give him one of these cards."

Most wives are reluctant, even afraid, to actually give a card to their husband.  (I shared one such story in my post called "No Fear")  If you have read or studied the teachings of Emerson Eggerichs (Love and Respect) this does not come as a complete surprise.

Some wives are afraid that the cards "won't work".  Others are afraid that they will!  Regardless of the many reasons, wives are failing to act because they fear.  There is only way to settle fear and that is to trust in God.

To the wives of Hope Chapel, I challenge you to stop by The Good Book Store and pick out one card.

To all the other wives, stop by the online store and choose one card.

Buy it.

Cast aside your fears and expectations.

Trust God.

Give it to your husband.


mom of 5 daughters said...

I really like your blog. A lot of times we women forget that our husbands thrive on our admiration of them. They will give their all to keep their wives happy, if we could give them the respect and appreciation they deserve and need.
Also, thanks for the tip about the jam! I am absolutely going to use it with some chicken, it will be delicious and I never thought of it, so thanks again!

anxiousknitter said...

I just found your blog and I really enjoy it. It's so refreshing to see written appreciation of husbands instead of something tearing them down, which seems all too prevalent these days. I'll admit, sometime it is harder to acknowledge the little things our hubbies do for us and show them how much we appreciate them for it. I look forward to following your blog!

BeaderBubbe said...

So glad you found me because I am now following you. I myself feel so lucky to have found my soulmate - 35 years now and growing. He is my heart and has helped me from day one with five children, a father in law who lived with us 8 years and a dog. We give each other gifts when its not holiday or birthday...and when we do give cards its not one, its usually two or three because there are not enough words to describe how we feel. I love your cards and will be purchasing them especially since his birthday is coming up. I find so many woman today are looking for the "perfect" man - we all have faults, what we must do is
"not to sweat the small stuff"..does my hubby get toothpaste on the sink, of course...but that is not important....he has always put me first before anything....and I him...thats what's important. thanks for your inspiration.

Melissa (@adventuroo) said...

Congrats on having these cards being stocked at a store!

Cyndi said...

My husband left 9 months ago. He is now living with the woman he left me for. He has not filed for divorce. I am studying the Love & Respect books so I understand the importance of respect.

My fear is that he will not respond well because of the wording.

Have you had any other concerns or questions about this?


Sharon Cohen said...

Thanks to everyone for your appreciation and comments. It means a great deal to me to have your support. I hope that you are not offended while I address Cyndi specifically.

Cyndi - you are to be commended for striving to learn what God would ask of you in your marriage. Please know that He will help you in your endeavors. Pray that He will banish your fears. I am already doing the same on your behalf.

I understand your concern. Please note that these cards are worded unlike anything on the market today. The wording is prayerfully and carefully selected so that a man recognizes his language. To assure myself that each card will "pass muster", I do have them reviewed by randomly selected men. Every one of them has been amazed at how well each card speaks to them.

I understand your trepidation. You are in a tender and vulnerable place right now. Take a look at the cards that are non-committal or offer no suggestions, promises or invitations. We have tried to provide cards in the Friendship category that a fearful wife would consider to be "safe" or "easy". Let me know if you need specific recommendations.

Bo said...

Thank you so much for commenting on my blog :) Your words were so kind. I'm going to be following you now too; I really like your blog and I look forward to reading future posts!

Can I get an Amen?