Ephesians 5:33b: And the wife should respect her husband.
Respect is his primary need, his deepest desire.

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Saturday, June 26, 2010

My Husband's Pride

My husband, Bruce, was getting ready to leave for work one morning (early this week) and I was just waking up. 

I had just come back from the bathroom and climbed under the covers again when he came to the doorway and said "Oh good. You're awake. We can pray before I leave today." We haven't been very regular in our commitment to pray together morning and night.  When it's been important to me - it has not been for him and vice versa.  Apparently, it was his turn to try again  

We married just five years ago and I have told him many times that I married him because (1) he prays (2) he listens for and expects an answer (3) he does what is expected of him. "He prays" is the number one quality on my list.  I never resist telling him about that one. 

I do not do very well with telling him the other things because he has a tendency to get a bit prideful and as a recovering alcoholic that is a dangerous thing!  But, I did tell him (that same morning kneeling at the foot of our bed) that I am still as impressed as I ever was with his courage in the face of adversity, his determination to achieve, his unfailing honesty and his commitment to work. 

Later that day, when he called from work on his break, he shared that he did not have a worry in the world - which he usually does. He felt confident and secure in his job for the first time that I can recall.

I'm suspecting that I should not fear telling him that I admire him because, apparently, it does strengthen his resolve and does not "give him a big head".

I think I'll share this card with him and not be so worried about his pride "getting out of control".  After all, that is an issue to be resolved between him and his Father in Heaven.   My assignment is to be his helpmeet; to respect, to encourage, to commend.  

Finish The Race

Word to the Wives ~ ~ An instinct burns in every man to achieve something before leaving this world. The regard and respect of others seems to motivate that desire to achieve, while disrespect and disregard can smother it. Recognize, respect and commend your husband for his achievements no matter how big or how small.

The cover of this card is a painting by my uncle.
Robert Gilbert

21 x 14
$550.00 Available


Teresa @ Grammy Girlfriend said...

Wonderful post...Thanks for sharing...and for writing it so beautifully...Something I really need to think about...l

Sharon Cohen said...

Thanks Teresa - I'm glad to know that you found an encouraging word here.

I'm taking an e-course called The Respect Dare and this was answer to one of the assignments. Ephesians 5:33 says that wives must respect their husbands and I'm on a quest to learn and to teach just how it is we are to do that.

Divas and dreams photography blog said...

What a beautiful painting!!!

Thanks for sharing!

Vic said...

Gorgeously written;) Have a beautiful Sunday eve;) xoxo

CM said...

What a wonderful reminder...I feel so convicted reading this post. Thank you.

Pam said...

I married my husband nearly 32 years ago and this is one of the wisest statements I've read of marriage. Wonderful post; thank you! Pam @ Sallygoodin

sweetwyo said...

30 years of marriage for me and respect for one another is the glue! Love your page!

healthandfoodforum said...

Your sentiments are comforting and inspiring.

Kelly said...

Lovely Post :)
That card is a beautiful work of art, too.

Corine said...

I love it! Another great Post... Thank you. You have a follower. ;)

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