My New Business: Your Husband's Deepest Desire

Life has been a bit discumbobulated since "Pink Slip Friday" on February 12th when I received notice that my last day of work would be April 19th.

I basically went into shock and awe for the first week. My blood pressure readings were off the chart and I was an emotional wreck.

Then I got a grip.

I could not help but notice that being laid off was going to grant me the one thing I had been praying for.  Time.  I had prayed for time to write my manuscript and for time to tackle a project I'd been toying with for three years.  I began to get excited about the prospects.  Setting aside the concern about how to support us on unemployment when we were barely making ends meet on my paycheck will be fodder for another post.  Suffice it to say that we are anchored in the promises of tithing as found in Malachi.

So - what is the BIG project I've been toying with in my mind for three years?

It is to support the teaching that men (husbands) have one driving desire.   It is their deepest desire. And when that desire is met, men are happy.   My husband has one desire, that when met, will make him happy.  Happy.  Satisfied.  Fulfilled.  

So, as a wife, if I know what that desire is and I am capable of fulfilling that desire, would I not choose to do so?

Wouldn't you?  Couldn't you?

You won't commit to do it until you know what it is.  Right?

His deepest desire?

NO - it is NOT sexual.

Man's Deepest Desire is for Respect.  He needs to be respected to feel happy.

Woman's deepest desire is for love.  She needs to be loved to feel happy.

Go ahead and mull that over for a few minutes.  Don't miss the opportunity to consider the teaching in Ephesians 5:33.

My mother and I have been discussing the topic of man's desire for respect for about three years.  We have not exhausted our conversation on the topic but it was high time to do something with what we've learned.

My mother talked to some men about the "Love and Respect Marriage Conference" they had attended with their wives.  Among the many things that impressed her was the problem that women have communicating with men - in their language - in the man's language - in the language of respect.

"Unfortunately . . . you won't find any greeting cards that wives send to their husbands, saying, “Baby, I really respect you.”

Why not? Because they don't sell either! When women buy greeting cards for their husbands, they want to express love for them; they don't even think about respect. Sadly, the deepest yearning of husbands goes unmet because wives (and the card publishers) are locked into relaying sentiments of love."  (Emerson Eggerich, author of "Love and Respect")

After conducting an extensive search and having proven Emerson Eggerich's point, my mother encouraged me to create a line of "respect cards". I agreed that I was the perfect candidate for the project. Having three failed marriages behind me I had only recently discovered the secret to marital bliss, found in Ephesians 5:33, wherein wives are commanded to respect their husbands. The benefit of learning the language of respect is demonstrated by the increasing magnificence of the man I married.

Along the way I have discovered a growing number of women equally determined to harness the power of respecting their husbands. If you are one of these daring women, this store is for you.

Per my mother's request, follow this link to view the cards:

Your Husband's Deepest Desire